The Delicate Balance of Travel and Home

Ever get that feeling?

It’s as if you’re jogging… (let’s be honest, it’s been awhile – but bear with me) and the view is great, the wind is in your hair, a pulsing energy flows through you. For a minute, you can feel it: complete freedom.

There are also those moments when your knees begin to ache, the wind feels like it’s slapping you in the face, and your lungs are having trouble keeping up with your legs. Each step weighs you down more than the last. The pain and the doubt sets in, and you ask yourself, why I am doing this?  Why am I still running right now…and when is it going to be over?

I calculated the days I’ve spent on the road in the first half of the year. For a person with part-time travel as the goal, it wasn’t pretty. There was a period of three months when I was home for a total of 2.5 weeks time.

I started to feel like an out-of-shape jogger.

For those of you aching to travel more, this might seem like an odd complaint. Yet I’ve promised to remain transparent with you here. And while there is absolutely a thing as not enough travel (I feel you)…turns out, at least for me, there is such a thing as too much travel.

Ever come home from a trip and need a vacation from your “vacation?”

You know what I’m talking about, then.

I did that for six months.

Many of us travel to break up monotony or say ‘sayonara’ to routine — to get out of stale patterns, pursue adventure, and rejuvenate our lives with fresh air and fresh perspectives. But what happens when travel…becomes your routine?


Lounging on beach at St Regis Princeville, Kauai

There is such a thing…as too much of a good thing.

After settling (as in settling down, NEVER SETTLE) in San Francisco and not traveling for about a year’s time (to balance out a year of travel,) I began to feel like it was time to hit the road again. But for a good 365 days or so (and I was going through a ton of transition and change,) I honestly did not have the desire to travel.

Fast forward to now: we’re halfway through this year, and I can feel my life slipping out of balance. And my friends, this blog, if nothing else, is dedicated to the pursuit of balance.

So what happened? I once heard that if you’re bored or unsatisfied with life, it simply means you’re not saying ‘yes’ enough. So about six months ago, when I decided it was time to start traveling again, I began saying ‘yes’ to everything.

When I’m coming, going, and boarding a plane every other weekend, life is grand. On top of that, as a travel writer I can literally feel my career taking off when I’m on the road. I meet kind people, experience new food and fascinating places, and feel as if I’m living life to its fullest. Yet when your passion is your career and your career is your passion, it can be difficult to not let it be all-consuming. And I have learned that travel alone does not fulfill my life. (As the Little Mermaid sings, “I want mooooore.”)

When you’ve been saying ‘yes’ for so long (Yes! I’ll take that trip. Yes! I’ll write that piece. Yes! I will help you plan your entire vacation) the natural response when life is out of balance is to start saying ‘no.’  I began instead to say ‘yes’ to staying home. I spent more than a few nights at a time in the apartment I’ve created a home in.  I slowly began making coffee dates and happy hour (and actual) dates that weren’t rushed or consumed with conversation about where I was headed next. I reveled in home-cooked meals and cups of tea by the fireplace.

Yet in pausing to take a break, in between all the excitement and the noise, a new silence arrived — one I wasn’t comfortable with.

I am familiar with the restlessness of wanting to go someplace new or feeling the itch to get on an airplane. This was something different.

Have you ever just felt off? Call it a funk, call it a lack of normal levels of daily enthusiasm, call it whatever you like. If you’ve felt it, you know what I’m talking about. I know it because I’ve been in a funk before — one that lasted around three years. So now when I feel it setting in, I’m like “I see you! We’re going to fix this.”

I equate traveling to listening to my favorite piece of music. When I need to hear it, it is the best thing in the world. I’ll play that song on repeat. I’ll wear my headphones all day. I’ll turn it up and dance around the house.

But at some point, it just becomes noise.

Kauai, you're magnificent.

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And you know what happens when your music is too loud? You can’t hear anything else.

In my quest for the external I had been neglecting my internal needs. As an extrovert, it’s easy for me to do. With writing as my career, I have had to learn how to tune into my mind and spend quite a lot of time alone. As a result, I tend to turn to constant external stimulation: being busy, staying social, skipping town, running around.

And we’re back to the running.

I’ve heard it said that full-time travelers are running away from something. While I don’t necessarily agree, to me the idea of traveling full-time is a bit like the prospect of running several marathons: that’s cool, do your thing…but it’s not for me. I’d rather enjoy a speed walk or a simple 5k from time to time.

The good thing about running, though, is it has a finish line. You know where you’re going, and the end is in sight. So no matter how much you’re suffering, you know when it’s going to be over. You can push through.

But this is my life. There’s no arrival. There’s no finish line. And there’s no need to suffer. There are times in life we need to push through to reach a goal, or sacrifice. Sometimes, we need to keep going. Other times, we need to slow down.


Can I stay forever? #InCostaBrava

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When we have this desire to see the world, it can be very tempting to pack in as many countries, cities, sights as possible. I understand that, I’ve done it myself. It’s especially difficult when we have limited time in a place or away from our “normal” lives at home. Yet it is only when we do slow down, when we linger, when we explore aimlessly and stop to listen…that we can hear and know the subtleties that enable us to really know and fully appreciate a place. It is the same with our own lives.

When we’re part-time travelers, we don’t always get to travel slowly.  No matter the length of the trip, the lessons of travel continue to teach us how to live better at home. Just as slow travel gives us the chance to pause and reflect on the internal, so does slow livingAnd if we find ourselves in the lucky position of being able to both travel and maintain a home, we need to do a better job of savoring the slow moments of both.

Time and time again travel (and writing,) has allowed me to step back from my daily life and learn something I might not have otherwise. It comes down to this: speed.  The speed at which we’re traveling and living affects us on so many levels. The irony is, of course, the faster we’re going the less likely we are to even recognize our own speed. Traveling at a fast pace for the past six months, with so many obligations both professional and personal, left me out of breath.

I’ve now likened this fast pace to running and noise. In simple terms, being home with no plans to leave…is sitting in stillness. Sitting still can be difficult for an ambitious person living in our modern world, even more so for a traveler. But how can we find meaning without the time and space to reflect on it?

In my recent moments of stillness, this is what I’ve learned: outside of your comfort zone is always going to be where the magic happens. It’s where growth and experience and everything that is worth anything originates. Yet I’ve come to realize that getting out of your comfort zone isn’t as one dimensional as it seems. Sometimes, staying home and not having any plans is uncomfortable. This applies whether you’re traveling or not — in our culture of ‘busyness’ and our ever-increasing pressure to do, be, see, and be seen. Can we sit with that?

Let us challenge ourselves to take some a handful of moments and simply be. Perhaps it’s in that stillness we find the illusive balance we seek.


Life is not a race, it is a journey meant to be savored at each step of the way.

It might not be as exciting, but it will be worth it.


Tips to Slow Down (On A Trip or In Life)

  • Cook your own food. Take your time.
  • Dine outside – either at a restaurant or on a patio in a home. Eat slowly, savoring each bite.
  • Take thirty minutes and read a book (not a Kindle, a book) or…
  • Go for an aimless walk
  • Meditate for 10 minutes << trust me, just do it.
  • Enjoy a cup of tea or a glass of wine with no distractions
  • Turn off the wifi for a couple of hours << big one.
  • Sit, close your eyes, and take in all of the other senses around you
  • Spend time with someone who makes you laugh, perhaps to the point of your face hurting
  • Spend time with someone who agrees not to talk about work with you for days, even weeks at a time. You are not your work.
  • When someone talks, try to listen fully and not interrupt. Do not look at your phone. << Who else terrible at this?

PUT DOWN YOUR PHONE. << I know, I know…it’s hard. Do it anyways.


Where in your life or your travels are you feeling out of balance? Could it have to do with the speed at which you’re living? How do you balance travel and home? 


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  1. Beautiful post, Anne. I’ve felt like this a lot recently and struggling to find balance between travel and home, which for me means A LOT of time at home–I think you remember me writing something about being a “homebody traveler” 🙂 I’m with you, though I haven’t quite figured this out for myself.

    • It’s a really tough balance. For those of us who love travel so much, it can be difficult to not make it our entire lifestyle (especially when we could!) But I do believe we have the ability to make conscious choices about how we want to live. For some people this is more travel, others more home. For me it’s just knowing when I need one more than the other.

  2. I can relate to this dilemna all too well. I’ve recently pulled myself off of the fast track. It’s scary on certain levels but feels right on more. However, I don’t know that I’m ready to put the phone down quite yet.

    • Haha putting down the phone is the hardest part, for sure! Wishing you well on this new path!

  3. I definitely can relate to some of the things that you mentioned in this post. I remember doing a whirlwind 7 weeks in 7 European countries last summer and by the end, I was tired of traveling and needed a break from my break. At home, while it is nice sometimes to sit down and relax, in the culture of busyness (especially in NYC), I find it hard to be still for two long – I find myself constantly going back and forth between wanting to travel and wanting to take life slowly.

    • Yes, we often forget how exhausting all the busyness is – at home or while traveling! It can be difficult to sit still, or even painful! Ha. But I think there is something valuable in that discomfort, and that is what I’m currently exploring 😀

  4. Lucy Smith

    Wow this is a really great post. So needed to read this. I’ve got my next big trip coming up and I should be excited but I’ve been so consumed by thoughts on the future and what to do when I come back that I’m forgetting to slow down. There’s no rush and I need to remind myself more to chill out and give myself a break. Thanks!

    • Thanks for reading, Lucy. I think we could all use a little break and chill out! 😀 So glad it was helpful. Wishing you all the best and have a great next big trip! We’re so lucky to be able to travel. Savor it.

  5. Julianne

    Love this post. It’s 100% what I needed to hear right now. Finally at a point where I’m burnt out from travel and all I want is a month in my own apartment, dammit! Love your writing and your honesty 🙂

    • Anne Lowrey

      I’m there too! So looking forward to some nights in my own bed, it’s not even funny! Haha.
      Thanks for reading!


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