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The City of (Unexpected) Love

May 10, 2016 Stories From the Road, Travel

You came to Paris to fall in love. You just didn’t know it when you did.

For what does the city of love and light have to offer a solo traveler?

Love, and light.

You stroll contemplatively. You have days where your only agenda is to go by a certain ice cream shop or pop in to a particular bookstore. You look up at the rows of structured buildings and admire the stretch of intricate, iron balconies placed delicately upon beige facades.

You pick one arrondissement and decide: this is your home for the next two weeks. Maybe later it becomes a month.

You explore the neighborhood, find the cheapest place for wine in the evenings and cafe au lait in the mornings. The pâtissier begins to recognize you as the days pass slowly into evenings. You sit in parks and public squares and watch life and the city go by.

You dine alone for three hours, sit in a cafe with a glass or two or champagne, cherish three courses, and end with a cafe gourmand. No one rushes you. No one hassles you. You write in your journal or lose yourself in thought. And you enjoy every single minute.

Oh! But Paris isn’t for changing planes, it’s for changing your outlook.”

You fill your petit fridge with pungent French cheeses and cheap bottles of good wine. You walk to the open-air market and buy sweet, fresh fruit, or stop in the supermarché to have some tangy celery root remoulade on hand. You make yourself a picnic night after night.

You bike leisurely along the river, or over beneath the Eiffel Tower, just for the tiny thrill of going a bit faster after an aimless stroll.

You greet everyone with ‘bonjour’ and leave everyone with ‘merci, au revoir.’  You overhear conversations in French, and have no idea what they’re saying but you like the way their words echo as they speak.

Perhaps you wear bright red lipstick and little black dresses with colorful scarves or tiny ballet flats. Perhaps you feel elegant just by walking outside. Paris has a way of making you stand up straighter, and also relaxing into your true self. You both care deeply and not at all.

You discover impressive sights, yet cherish more the small street corners or pieces of art or unremarkable but beautiful cafes you never knew you wanted to see. You stumble upon a new favorite arrondissement, and make a note for your next visit.

Paris isn’t just a place for some. It’s a ritual. It’s a song, a dance, and poem that is lived and breathed. It is simple, subtle. It is both refreshingly old and startlingly new.

You connect with Paris because it connects you to yourself. You’re not just there observing through a looking-glass or a camera lens — you are just living. It is both the simplest and most decadent thing you can imagine.

You remember who we you before your heart was ever broken. You love Paris not for who or what or where it is, but for how it brings out the best in you. You adapt — even just for a few days or weeks. You are independent, strong, slow, present.


As a little girl, you always thought Paris was the place you’d go to with the love of your life — there would be hand holding, champagne toasting, and kissing under the Eiffel Tower. It’s a good thing you didn’t wait for that to happen…that’s the danger of letting the world or society or expectations define a person or a place for you. When we simply arrive, let go, and let time or a place or a journey flow, life often surprises us with something even better than we had initially imagined.

When in Paris, go it alone. It is not strange to take yourself on dates. It’s even encouraged that you buy yourself chocolates and pastries, fresh flowers, and fine meals. It’s romance, for one. You can think of nothing you need more in this moment.

Are we romanticizing Paris, even when dreaming of being there alone? Of course. But isn’t it exciting to know that you can live slowly, breathe deeply, and accept things as they are — not as we presume they will be?

Something about the way Paris moves teaches us to reflect it, if we are open to it. We find beauty and peace in simplicity and slow presence, deep thought. We find the beauty in a single moment. And as we see the world, we begin to see ourselves. We find ourselves seeking — and seeing — the beauty in our surroundings, in ourselves.

Respirer Paris, cela conserve l’ame. | Breathe Paris in, it nourishes the soul. – Victor Hugo

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About Anne

Anne Lowrey is an award-winning travel writer based in San Francisco.

After spending a year in the world, she insisted on building a life at home she loved as much as she loves travel. The result was a move to SF, which she affectionately calls her “soul city.” She believes in the balance of and connection between time spent at home and abroad.

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  1. Hans says

    May 10, 2016 at 9:22 pm

    “Perhaps you wear bright red lipstick and little black dresses with colorful scarves or tiny ballet flats.” I sure don’t but I love it when the parisiennea do!

    Reply
    • Anne says

      May 11, 2016 at 2:48 pm

      Lol

      Reply
  2. Kate says

    May 11, 2016 at 12:53 am

    Great post! Very beautifully written!
    Kate | http://www.petiteadventures.org/

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    • Anne says

      May 11, 2016 at 2:47 pm

      Thank you, Kate!

      Reply
  3. Rebecca says

    May 11, 2016 at 8:29 am

    It’s as difficult not to leave your heart in Paris as it is San Francisco.

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    • Anne says

      May 11, 2016 at 2:47 pm

      TRUTH

      Reply
  4. clifford says

    May 28, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    beautiful put!

    Reply
    • Anne says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:17 pm

      Merci!

      Reply
  5. Amalia says

    June 11, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    Truly inspiring. Amidst planning a trip to France, I thought “I’m going to see if there’s a piece on Anne’s blog”. Wouldn’t you know it was the first thing? 🙂 If you wrote this the length of a book, I’d buy it.

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    • Anne says

      June 16, 2016 at 2:56 pm

      “America is my country, but Paris is my hometown…” 🙂
      Thank you so much for the lovely comment! I know you will adore France! I hope you love Paris as much as I do <3

      Reply
  6. Sarah says

    June 13, 2016 at 3:30 am

    I love Paris.. it’s so dreamy but so so far away. Any chance XL Airways are keen to fly New Zealand to Paris at an affordable price point?

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    • Anne says

      June 16, 2016 at 2:57 pm

      Ah yes, I believe you have to fly to LA before you can get going to Paris from NZ, oui?
      If you can get to LA you know can you hop a decently priced flight from there! And if not, rest assured that you live in one of the most beautiful places on our planet. NZ is up there with Paris, for me at least 🙂

      Reply

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